HEAL YOURSELF NOW!

 

I remember the moment I realized I was purposed to do the work that I do. I remember because it immediately came at me with internal thought objections.

You are a man. You cannot do this. No one will take you serious. Who do you think you are? Women will not talk to you about this because you are neither a psychiatrist, nor a psychologist. Who authorizes you to do what you do? What authorizing agency authorizes you to do what you do? I set these intrusive thoughts aside for a moment.

There are these things that liberate me and empower me. My developmental years prepared me to be sensitive to the pain of others. I had known significant pain during that period. I thought it was only me.

I evolved to discover there had been pain to go around. I discovered that other parents can be brutal to their children, too. Other parents can be both, loving and nurturing. Other parents can simply be indifferent.

I discovered boys and girls were being beaten by parents and others. When I discovered some parents and other family members were using girls as young as three and into their adolescent years for sex, it took me a moment to wrap my mind around that.

Where I come from in the Bible belt of the United States, people used the biblical admonition of spare the rod and spoil the child as their excuse for beating children. There was no admonition for sexual abuse.

From military service and world travel, to university, and into adult career life, everywhere I have served, the demographic served has primarily been women. The exceptions to this rule were military service and time serving a prison population as chaplain.

Thousands of women from many nations, ethnic and racial groups, religious groups, and social class groups, (in person, online, or over the phone) have told me their stories of while children experiencing inhumanity’s most heinous acts of childhood sexual terrorism. The second worst part of this domestic tragedy is that most never told anyone what was happening for fear of being further harm. They would later tell me.

The third worst part of this domestic tragedy is carrying the impact of these events into adult life in the form of post-traumatic stress disorder from childhood sexual and domestic trauma. This insidious evil causes many forms of sickness and disease. This behavioral influence causes many levels of mental health conditions. It is a cancer that shortens the lifespans of women when ignored and left untreated.

The capstone experience of all this for me was the night my wife woke up screaming in fear. She had remembered what happened to her as a child. As I held her to assist her calm, I knew there was no turning back.

More than 30 years later, we have written books, screenplays, worked on film projects, counseled, and spoken to audiences of thousands of women generally in their mid-30s and older to help them heal from the lifelong lingering effects of childhood sexual and domestic trauma. 

To that end, I am introducing ‘HEAL YOURSELF NOW.’ Heal Yourself Now is a 6-week online course of study to heal from the lingering effects of childhood sexual and domestic trauma. Ladies, if this is not your experience, be extremely thankful. It is the experience of 7 in 10 women that have talked to me over the past 30 years.

I reveal to you an opportunity to Heal Yourself Now. The benefits to working this course are immediate and extended. They include:

• An immediate self – confidence and self – esteem booster for taking action against your trauma.
•  Immediately begin to heal from new learning approaches and new tools for transformational healing. 
• Immediately develop understanding about negatives feelings and negative self-perceptions of self for decades and how to overcome them.
• Develop a new frame of reference for life that is proactive with gratitude for opportunity to heal over against always being negativly reactive.
• Discover paths to heal physical and emotional conditions through meditation, proper sleep, proper nutrition, exercise, sunlight, grounding and forest bathing.  
• Discover the capacity to be an intentional lifelong learner of health and healing, plus other personal and professional development activity. 
• Learn how to protect emotional and physical self-interests through the establishment of boundaries.
• Learn human relations principles that lead to more conscious living as an awakened and aware woman.
• Absolutely know that you are a distinctly unique person purposed to live out the core values of your new liberated and empowered self, requiring no one’s permission to do what is right for you.
• Live healed, free, and unhindered from the lingering effects of childhood sexual and domestic trauma.
• Live longer. Live healthier.
• Live more loviing and productive in all areas of your life.

The Course Synopsis and the Course Description reveal course features.

The Course Synopsis

This course delivers stories, learning experiences, and strategies to mid-30s and older women that help them reclaim their personal power over their trauma’s anxiety driven anger, depression, and other lingering effects of childhood sexual and domestic trauma. It helps 35+ women transform themselves from victims to victors to live loving and productive lives.

The Course Description

1. Inform students of the devastating effects childhood sexual and domestic trauma on emotional development. 
2. Learn relevant course vocabulary for understanding.
3. Introduce the power of personal emotional technology, self – love, available for transformational healing.
4. Discover learning tools to adapt and enhance your healing experience. Tools include mindfulness, exercise, nutrition, supplements, meditation, and spiritual direction.
5. Complete a one-page review of Heal Yourself NOW’s impact on personal life as a reminder and a guide to live a responsible daily practice of self – love.

Module One

Module One of Heal Yourself Now teaches you how to heal from childhood sexual and domestic trauma by transforming your anxiety, anger, and depression into the power to love. You will learn important vocabulary describing those effects.

You will discover how to use the Adverse Childhood Experiences Survey to become clearer on what has happened to you.  You will become aware of the devastating and lingering effects childhood sexual and domestic trauma have had on you for decades and how you can heal.

Module Two

Module Two of Heal Yourself Now declares, “Let Your Healing Begin.” In this module, activity will focus on a truth that has stood the test of time.  The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. ~Lao Tzu

Our single steps begin with examination of:

1. Meditation, and
2. Detaching from Identity Attachment to Pain, and
3. Arrested Development, and
4. Effective Communication

Module Three

In Module Three, we examine the following:

1. Trauma - what it is, where it comes from, and how it influences our behavior, and

2. Anxiety - what it is, where it comes from, and how it influences our behavior, and

3. Anger - what it is, where it comes from, and how it influences our behavior, and

4. Depression - what it is, where it comes from, and how it influences our behavior, and

5. Transformation - what is means and how to accomplish it from caterpillar to butterfly.

Module Four

In Module Four, we seek to become clear:

1.       About who we are to ourselves, what we want for ourselves, and why we want what we want for ourselves by examining our motivation, and

2.       About our core values establishing the things most important to us, and

3.       About how to establish necessary boundaries to protect ourselves, and our self-interests, and

4.       About how we accept ourselves, our pluses and our minuses without judgment, through pursuing an understanding of Self-Acceptance and Self-Disclosure

Module Five

In Module Five, we will examine what it means to Go Deeper Into Healing:

1.       Through providing Outstanding Service Care and Respect, beginning first with yourself, and

2.       By understanding what it means to be awakened and coming out of the dark, and

3.       By acknowledging the emerging new you and that the old you is gone, and

4.       By learning the dynamics for how to negotiate trust, being accountable to trust agreements, and making clear the consequences for violating trust.

Module Six

In Module Six, we approach the close of our time together healing from childhood sexual and domestic trauma by:

1.       Looking back at our time together and all we have learned, and 

2.       Detailing the description of the healed woman, and

3.       How to avoid conflict by establishing core values to be foundation to our personal or professional relationships by agreeing on what the consequences shall be by proactively planning, and

4.       Detailing the celebration of healing, and

5.       A final conference call to share our perceptions of the experience.

If we extend Lao Tzu’s thought of the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, we can appreciate that every day that we wake up begins with the single step. Where will you step today in your new healed and grateful self? 

I look forward to meeting you and serving you on your journey.

Oscar Crawford, M.Div., M.S. Justice

+1 480 228 4654   oscarcrawfordmedia@gmail.com